While many people use the terms talking and communicating to mean the same thing, there is a world of difference. Here are 5 strategies to talk less and communicate more and up your effective communication skills:
One of the biggest indicators of happiness in life is the quality of your self-talk. When you self-talk is primarily negative and stressful, happiness can be elusive and successfully meeting the challenges in life may be nearly impossible. The benefits to positive self-talk are many, from improved coping skills when life throws you curveballs, to reduced risk of depression; it can even improve our health!
Here are 5 ways to improve the quality of your self-talk:
It’s a natural part of life, we have unpleasant feelings, disappointments and circumstances that we would rather not experience. Many of us have even grown up in homes where we are taught to not address the elephant in the room, and if you do, you are seen as the problem. When we don’t talk about difficult circumstances, they don’t usually get better on their own, but rather create separation between people and undermine connectivity in relationships and sap us of our joy in life. While it may seem like an oxymoron, I suggest learning to become comfortable in your discomfort.
Rarely is life so perfect that there aren’t some things, big or small, that you would like to change. While many people feel like they are a victim of circumstance in getting OR not getting what they want in life, we all have more power than we realize. Most people can tell you what is wrong in less than a minute, many people struggle to tell you what is right in two minutes. Therein lies much of the problem. Everything is energy and your thoughts are no exception. Change your thinking or more importantly, your feelings and expectations and you can change your life.