Even the most motivated, positive and productive people go through periods where their “Edge” is dulled and they are floundering and that can quickly drain away motivation and confidence. For some people it is stagnation in their career or simply an insurmountable workload. Sometimes personal issues such as divorce, loss, family demands or a sense of “losing yourself” in the demands of work and life leave you feeling overwhelmed.
Face it, forgiveness is hard. I once went out and randomly interviewed 15 strangers on the street and asked them “Is it easier to forgive yourself or someone else?” Fourteen people immediately responded with some variation of it’s easier to forgive others and only one person, after pausing a few seconds said, he found it easier to forgive himself. While it was by no means an exhaustive research study, my work has allowed me to hear hundreds of people report it is harder to forgive themselves than it is to forgive others.
In today’s busy fast-paced life, getting together for family dinner or even finding some time to connect at the end of the day can be challenging. To make matters, worse, it can be tough to get everyone on the same page and talking, particularly the kids. Try asking these 5 questions:
Whether you are trying to ditch the chips and cookies from your life, stop impulse purchases on EBay or quit smoking, breaking a habit can seem nearly impossible.
Part of the problem is we rely on willpower and if we fail, we feel weak and disappointed in ourselves. This often leads us to do the very thing we are trying to quit. The other reason we may fail is because we rely too much on our own motivation and let’s face it, what seems like a good enough motivation the night before can leave us feeling distinctly unmotivated when the rubber meets the road the next day!
We all want to live our best life. But what does that look like? Here are 5 commandments that while on the surface, seem fundamental and easy, they make take a little practice. The results will amaze you!
Forging healthy relationships can be a challenge and learning to recognize genuine people, whether in our personal or professional relationships, can help us to feel more secure and allow us to practice the required vulnerability it takes to really connect with people.
Some people struggle to be genuine themselves, what does it mean to be genuine and how do you allow yourself to be vulnerable to being genuine? Genuine people have a high sense of self-awareness and are more objective about themselves… they try to observe themselves.
Fear is a natural and sometimes appropriate human emotion. The trick with fear is not to let it consume you and to distinguish when it’s a tool that is helping to keep you safe and guiding you towards good choices and when it is simply undermining your peace of mind and quality of life.
When you feel like your fear is taking over, follow these 5 steps:
The original goal of social media was to provide new ways for users to create and maintain relationships and no one can argue social media is a raging success by nearly any standards. I would venture to say, early social media pioneers had no idea how they would impact our lives.
We all have situations in life when we are being asked our opinion, a specific issue needs to be addressed or we feel someone could benefit from a different perspective. Honesty can be tricky for some people because they don’t want to be mean, risk rejection or engage in conflict.
Here is a 5 step process to be honest without being hurtful while minimizing the possibility of rejection and conflict.
Many people feel stressed and fearful about life and believe that other people or circumstances outside of themselves are responsible. This is true not only from a personal perspective, but also on a larger scale. A lot of people seem to be expressing concerns that the life they are living is no longer working or is leaving them wanting for something deeper and more meaningful.