You’ve heard of daddy issues, but what about their not-so-infamous companion: Mommy Issues? Mother’s Day is on Sunday so you may be contemplating your relationship with your own mother this week. I get it. Family relationships tend to be tricky and complicated and these holidays seem to shine a spotlight on the pain points of these relationships.
Remember that when it comes to social media, it tends to be a facade and you aren’t exactly privy to what goes on behind the scenes. Here are four ways to handle Mother’s Day if your relationship status with your mom is “complicated.”
FIND COMFORT FROM YOUR LOVED ONES
Just because your relationship with your mom doesn’t bring you joy the way it probably should, that doesn’t mean you have to be miserable on Mother’s Day. Take this day as a time to reflect on all of the other special family and friends in your life that bring positivity and light into your world. Focus on that, and don’t foster the negative energy that comes from resenting your relationship with your mother.
DO NOT FEEL OBLIGATED TO SUFFER
It’s something we’ve all had to endure at some point. We’ve had to suffer through a family function because it was our familial duty to be present for our family. Think about what would happen if you put yourself first just this once. You don’t have to go to that brunch if you’re going to be miserable the entire time. You don’t have to surround yourself with toxic people just because they happen to be family.
TAKE A BREAK FROM SOCIAL MEDIA
Social media detoxes, in general, are good for your mental health. In this case, scrolling through social media could do a lot more harm than good. Pick this weekend as a social media detox weekend and unplug. People will be posting all about how their mom is their best friend or about the beautiful brunch they went to in order to celebrate their amazing relationship. Don’t put yourself in the position to have to read those messages over and over all weekend long.
ASK FOR HELP
I know, I know. Going to therapy for family struggles sounds so cliche. Have you ever thought about why going to therapy comes up around family holidays so much? You are not alone! People all over the country seek therapy for assistance sorting through emotional trauma surrounding their family dynamics. Many people don’t even know what their underlying issues are until they’re able to work through them by speaking with a professional.
These are just a few of many ways to deal with a toxic or complicated relationship with your mother this weekend. Some of these can even be applied to other toxic relationships you may have in your life, as well.